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*Meditate with Indrani* ~ Finding Your One True Love

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Indrani would love to share some of her meditations with you.  Her desire is to assist you in beginning a meditation practice, if you do not have one.   If you have a meditation practice, these weekly meditations will help you to work on living a brighter life.

Are you looking for your one true love?  Or maybe you need a way to renew the love you have with your current partner.  Today’s 10-minute meditation is called, “Finding Your One True Love.”  This is a meditation that will enable you to be in a space to draw in the love and qualities you would like to attract with your true love.

As you meditate, allow yourself to imagine the qualities you want to attract in your one true love.  Identify the qualities …. Is it kindness? Funny? Intelligent? Someone who respects nature?  Now imagine FEELING the joy and happiness as you surround yourself with your true love.  You are becoming the essence of all you wish to attract in your life.  Listen below, and let us know if this helped.

“Finding Your One True Love” Meditation Recording

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Meditate with Indrani – *Being Present*

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Indrani would love to share some of her meditations with you, so keep an eye on the ILF blog for our ongoing meditation series, which begins with today’s meditation.  Her desire is to assist the members of the Indrani’s Light Foundation family a way to begin a meditation practice, if you do not have one at this time.  If you have a meditation practice, these weekly meditations will help you to work on living a brighter life.

Today’s meditation is called, “Being Present.”  This is a meditation that will enable you to be present with whatever comes up.  Are you experiencing feelings that are stopping you in your tracks?

Indrani wants you to just NOTICE and be aware of your emotions and behavior, without judgment.  This can help you be PROactive in your life, and not REactive.  This is only a 3-minute meditation to get you present with your current emotions….. try it.  It’s only 3 minutes.

“Being Present” Meditation Recording

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Meditate with Indrani at *This Moment*

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Meditate with Indrani Indrani would love to share some of her meditations with you, so keep an eye on the ILF blog for our ongoing meditation series, which begins with today’s meditation.  Her desire is to assist the members of the Indrani’s Light Foundation family a way to begin a meditation practice, if you do not have one at this time.  If you have a meditation practice, these weekly meditations will help you to work on living a brighter life.

Today’s meditation is called, “This Moment.”  It will help get you centered and grounded to whatever challenge or issue that is taking place in your life at this moment.  Looking to get freedom from the pressure that’s squeezing, choking, and stagnant feeling when you’re caught up in your head and can’t get free.

Give yourself permission to feel whatever you’re feeling.  Don’t ignore it …. don’t judge it. Indrani wants to share a trick that will help you not feel like you’re a hostage in this moment.

Think of a time in your life when you were happy, or elated beyond belief.  Was it a birth of a child?  A recent vacation?  Or perhaps a face of a friend who you haven’t seen in ages. What is the feeling you have right now as you visualize this memory?  Why do these visualizations work?  Indrani will explain in this short 10 minute meditation.

“This Moment” Meditation Recording

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Practice Gratitude

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gratitudeThere are benefits of expressing gratitude as a daily practice.  Specifically, scientists have been able to verify that practicing gratitude on a daily basis positively impacts well-being and has a lasting effect.

How can you use gratitude to live a brighter life?

Do you write in a journal?  Whether you own a journal or not, we want you to write a note of gratitude to yourselves:  “What is it that you are most grateful for about yourself?”  Once you’ve written this out, what feelings come up for you?  Did you find it harder to write one for yourself, as oppose to writing one for someone else?

{A CHALLENGE}

If you are feeling a bit bold today, why don’t you pick up your smart phone right now and text a message to someone you have NOT been in touch for in awhile, and tell them something you are grateful for about THEM.  We’d love to hear the response you get from them, AND how it made you feel?

If you are needing more tools to help get you motivated to live a brighter life, please let us help you.  Our Live A Brighter Life online workshop series is completely FREE, and it can be anonymous if you need to attend privately.  It’s worth every minute!  Isn’t it time to THRIVE is life, and not just SURVIVE?

Join us this summer for our 6-week Live A Brighter Life Online weekly workshop series starting Thursday, June 30th.  It’s that easy.  Click here for all of the details and a way to sign up.

With Love & Light,

Team ILF

Repeat after me ….

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Do you use affirmations in your daily life?

Here is just one of many definitions of “positive affirmations:”

affirmations“Affirmations are positive, specific statements that help you to overcome self-sabotaging, negative thoughts. They help you visualize, and believe in, what you’re affirming to yourself, helping you to make positive changes to your life and career.”

But before we give you some positive affirmations, we need to know if you BELIEVE these can help you.  Dr. Carmen Harra is a best-selling author, clinical psychologist, and relationship expert. Her newest book is The Karma Queens’ Guide to Relationships.  She wrote an article for the Huffington Post a couple of years ago about affirmations that can change your life. (Full article here).  She talks about the theory and the science around positive affirmations.  Here is an excerpt of the article we want to highlight:

“Affirmations are proven methods of self-improvement because of their ability to rewire our brains. Much like exercise, they raise the level of feel-good hormones and push our brains to form new clusters of “positive thought” neurons. In the sequence of thought-speech-action, affirmations play an integral role by breaking patterns of negative thoughts, negative speech, and, in turn, negative actions.”   ~ Dr. Carmen Harra

At Indrani’s Light Foundation we teach people how to restore themselves after suffering from shame and trauma.  One of the tools we use is an “Affirmation Checklist.”  It might feel a little weird or uncomfortable, but we encourage you to stand in front of a mirror and say these affirmations to yourself OUT LOUD:

  • I am WORTHY of unconditional love.
  • I love my BODY.
  • I love MYSELF.
  • I deserve GOODNESS.
  • I deserve ABUNDANCE.
  • I deserve to be SAFE and SECURE.
  • I am a GOOD PERSON.
  • I deserve to BE LOVED.
  • I DESERVE the life I say I WANT.
  • I trust my INTUITION.
  • I am CREATIVE.
  • My VOICE is beautiful.
  • My words are NECESSARY in this world.
  • I can envision a life of PEACE and JOY.
  • I BELIEVE that my life and work are MEANINGFUL and NECESSARY in this world.

Are you ready to BELIEVE you are worthy?  Are you ready to BELIEVE you are loved?  We want to help you with these affirmations and so much more!  Our Live A Brighter Life online workshop series is completely FREE, and it can be anonymous if you need to attend privately.  It’s worth every minute!

Join us this summer for our 6-week Live A Brighter Life Online weekly workshop series starting Thursday, June 30th.  It’s that easy.  Click here for all of the details and a way to sign up.

With Love & Light,

Team ILF

What’s the difference between SURVIVING and THRIVING?

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What is the difference between SURVIVING and THRIVING? Which do YOU choose?

“It's not about surviving, it's about THRIVING!”TO SURVIVE:

  • To remain alive or in existence.
  • To carry on despite hardships or trauma.
  • To remain functional or usable.
  • To cope.

TO THRIVE:

  • To grow strongly and vigorously.
  • To do well/prosper.
  • To flourish.

What can we do to begin to thrive?  Be specific.

  • Make sure you get enough sleep.
  • Eat well.
  • Exercise.
  • Learn healthy ways of managing stress and anxiety.
  • Seek support (social and professional services, resources and materials).
  • Avoid intake of alcohol or other drugs.
  • Regularly go to a doctor for a check-up.
  • Make sure you correctly take your prescription medication.
  • Set aside time during the day for self-care, including finding and enjoying positive emotion, keeping company with yourself, enjoying the company of others important to you, being part of something larger than yourself, and identifying which goals are most important to you.

Are you ready to THRIVE is your life?  Our Live A Brighter Life online workshop series is completely FREE, and it can be anonymous if you need to attend privately.  It’s worth every minute!

Join us this summer for our 6-week Live A Brighter Life Online weekly workshop series starting Thursday, June 30th.  It’s that easy.  Click here for all of the details and a way to sign up.

With Love & Light,

Team ILF

What IS self-care?

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self-careSELF-CARE is personal, physical, and mental health maintenance.  It is any activity of an individual, family, or community with the intention of improving or restoring health, or treating or preventing disease.  It is about taking the time out to restore oneself.

As women, (and especially as mothers), we are often taught to take care of everyone but ourselves.  Our lives are full, the needs of others are many; the result is that we tap our energy stores to serve others until we are literally bankrupt – physically, emotionally, and psychologically.

Here are some ways you might find relief:

  • Take a walk.
  • Read.
  • Take a bath.
  • Read a story to my children.
  • Watch a funny movie.
  • Work in my garden.
  • Exercise.
  • Become active in my community.

If you are struggling with taking care of yourself, and unable to get motivated, please let us help you.  Our Live A Brighter Life online workshop series is completely FREE, and it can be anonymous if you need to attend privately.  It’s worth every minute!  Isn’t it time to THRIVE is life, and not just SURVIVE?

Join us this summer for our 6-week Live A Brighter Life Online weekly workshop series starting Thursday, June 30th.  It’s that easy.  Click here for all of the details and a way to sign up.

With Love & Light,

Team ILF

Reaching Out

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reaching out FINALWhen you feel shamed or humiliated, who do you reach out to?  In our Live A Brighter Life curriculum, we teach a workshop called, “Shame Resilience.”  It’s so important that we learn how to recover from shame.

Reaching out is an important part of shame resiliency.  It requires that you choose sharing your story and creating change over separating and insulating yourself.  In doing so, connections are built and we start to see that we really are all the same.

It gives voice to the shame being felt, which in turn weakens the shame.  When you reach out you move from separating and insulating to sharing your story and creating change.
Separating and insulating means that there is an us and a “them.”  And we are not the same as “them.”  Separating and insulating allows you to believe that what is affecting others could never affect you, and what’s affecting you could never affect anyone else.  No one else has been through, seen or experienced what you have, or you will never go through, see or experience what someone else has.

To whom will you REACH OUT?

• Partner
• Parent
• Family member
• Religious community member
• Community member
• Teacher
• Coach
• Health professional

If you are struggling to be vulnerable, and unable to reach out to anyone, please let us help you.  Our Live A Brighter Life online workshop series is completely FREE, and it can be anonymous if you need to attend privately.  It’s worth every minute!  Isn’t it time to THRIVE is life, and not just SURVIVE?

Join us this summer for our 6-week Live A Brighter Life Online weekly workshop series starting Thursday, June 30th.  It’s that easy.  Click here for all of the details and a way to sign up.

With Love & Light,

Team ILF

Where do you go when you feel shame?

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Shame often brings us to such a diminished place that we can’t see our strengths or be objective about ourselves.  Shame corrodes the piece of us that believes we are capable of change.  It is often the source of destructive and damaging behavior.

shame imageSo where do you go when you feel shame?

  • Loss of self-worth (worthiness)
  • Loss of empathy (numbing of self)
  • Loss of connection with people
  • Loss of connection with self (identity and values)

And shaming definitely does not work when we are trying to introduce positive change to people.

When the ILF Trainers are teaching the Live A Brighter Life workshops, the discussion around shame often leads to how much people say they shut themselves off from the world.  They enter “the vortex” of shame and cannot escape.  They are sucked down deep and eventually have to fight their way back up into the light of the world.

Why is shame so powerful?  How can we keep from letting shame take over our lives?

We can teach you some tools and coach you on some techniques to work through the shame before it takes you under.  Our Live A Brighter Life online workshop series is completely FREE, and it can be anonymous if you need to attend privately.  It’s worth every minute!  Isn’t it time to THRIVE is life, and not just SURVIVE?

Join us this summer for our 6-week Live A Brighter Life Online weekly workshop series starting Thursday, June 30th.  It’s that easy.  Click here for all of the details and a way to sign up.

Saying “NO!” to abuse

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no and stopThe most powerful words to use in circumstances of abuse are “Stop” and “No.”  In our Live A Brighter Life workshops, we are teaching women in abusive situations HOW to say “No” to abuse.  Here are some examples we teach:

  • You need to make yourself very clear. You may use other phrases such as “That’s not okay,” or, “That’s not appropriate,” or, “That’s enough,” or “It’s not okay for me.”  But whatever you say, make it perfectly clear that you want the abuse to stop immediately.
  • If the abuser is unclear about exactly what you want stopped, then make it clear by saying it exactly.  For example, “Stop grabbing my arm,” or, “Stop blocking the doorway,” or “Do not hit me.”
  • Putting up with physical or emotional abuse is a choice.  If you choose not to accept it then a clear and specific “No” is the first step to removing yourself from the abusive situation.

Do you have a good friend or confidant who you can talk to?  If so, here is a way you can practice saying “No” to your abuser….

  • Ask your confidant if they can role play with you
  • Now, practice clear statements, tone of voice, body language, etc.
  • Ask for feedback.  Where can you improve?
  • Keep practicing.  When you’re ready to speak your truth to your abuser, make sure your confidant is aware you will be acting upon your “Stop” and “No.”

(**NOTE: If you do not have a confidant to help you, practice these statements in the mirror at home).

Here are a few important things to remember while your preparing to speak your truth:

Go from a reactive approach to a proactive approach.

  • Remember: anger can blind, fear can paralyze, and guilt can weaken.
  • Don’t act with intense emotion but with clear purpose.
  • If you need to, stop to collect your wits.
  • You are allowed to take your time to recover and gain perspective
    by saying things like, “Give me a minute,” or “ Let’s take a break,”
    or “I need to think about it.”
  • Then ask yourself why you want to say, “No.”
  • Crystallize your “yes” – what matters and your intention.
  • The real action of standing up for yourself takes place inside
    you before you say, “No.”
  • You have a right to protect what matters to you.

How are you feeling after reading this blog?  Do you feel like to need more support around this?  Just to let you know, we are teaching our FREE 6-week online Live A Brighter Life Workshop series this summer, starting June 30th.  You can sign up HERE if you would like help from our ILF certified trainers.

With Love & Light,

Team ILF