Lessons from Olga…..

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She wouldn’t accept my offer of a bracelet. She wouldn’t let me make a crown for her. She refused to come closer. She was one of the 200 or so students in one of the orphanages that my clown group visited. There I was sitting on a step, making crowns from pipe cleaners.  The kids were… [Continue Reading]

Is your EXCUSE bigger than your JOY?

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  I was chatting with a dear friend a while back and I heard myself say that sometimes people’s excuses are bigger than their Joy. Wow, I thought, that’s good… What do I mean by that simple sentence? I mean that some people like to wallow on the “poor me” side of the street. The… [Continue Reading]

Expired Skill Sets…

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  The definition of SKILL is the learned power of doing something competently: a developed aptitude or ability. My definition of skill is “something I have practiced.” During my tenure here on earth, I have practiced many skill sets that served me in the past but do not serve me here in the present. For example,… [Continue Reading]

In the darkest hours…you must love yourself.

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In the darkest hours…you must love yourself. When you have convinced yourself (or have been convinced by someone else) that you are: Not worthy Stupid Ignorant Ugly Frigid Barren Undeserving of love The list goes on… You MUST find something in you that you like. Perhaps you like your: Smile Laugh Skin Inner strength Compassionate… [Continue Reading]

The Gift of Understanding Jokes…

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At first glance, this title seems simple enough. Of course you can understand a joke. You crack up at Last Comic Standing and you get satire and you can deliver a nice zinger whenever you wish. Or do you? Can you? I just finished Priscilla Gilman’s The Anti-Romantic Child, and I have come to appreciate the… [Continue Reading]

Compassion fatigue…when caregivers are too tired to care!

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What happens to ME when I get sick from doing too much for YOU? What happens to YOU when I can no longer hold you in my heart with love and respect because I am tired of your pain? What happens to MY PAIN when I cannot find a way to see through your pain and into… [Continue Reading]

The hourglass called LIFE…

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One of my favorite songs is called BREATHE by Anna Nalick. One of the lines in this wonderful song is “life’s like an hour glass glued to the table”. The visual is quite glaring, no flip-overs. What’s done is DONE! My take on this is what’s done is not necessarily GONE! How can that be? Yes, time… [Continue Reading]

Gratitude, Presence and Self-care…a GPS for life’s twists and turns.

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How many of us now depend on devices that help us to navigate our way to a new destination? The answer is lots of us. How many of us refuse to tune into our inner GPS to find the way to Peace and Joy? The answer is LOTS of us. While it is easy to just put an address… [Continue Reading]

I was there…now I am here…

Clown Shoes by Kay Walten

A few hours ago I was in Guatemala sitting and laughing with a group who came together in a serendipitous and synchronistic way to bring smiles to lonely and hurting folk. That was our ONLY purpose. We searched out second hand shops and costume stores, raided our husband’s closets and searched deep within our hearts to find our inner clown…. [Continue Reading]

How large is your Grudge box?

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How large is your Grudge box? First what IS a Grudge Box? It’s the place in your head where you keep track of all your past grudges. You know… The kid in high school who stole your ONE true love The woman in the grocery line who flirted with your ”ever-so-handsome-and-everyone-wants-him” husband The mother-in-law who never… [Continue Reading]