Indrani would love to share some of her meditations with you, so keep an eye on the ILF blog for our ongoing meditation series, which begins with today’s meditation. Her desire is to assist the members of the Indrani’s Light Foundation family a way to begin a meditation practice, if you do not have one at this time. If you have a meditation practice, these weekly meditations will help you to work on living a brighter life.
Today’s meditation is called, “Being Present.” This is a meditation that will enable you to be present with whatever comes up. Are you experiencing feelings that are stopping you in your tracks?
Indrani wants you to just NOTICE and be aware of your emotions and behavior, without judgment. This can help you be PROactive in your life, and not REactive. This is only a 3-minute meditation to get you present with your current emotions….. try it. It’s only 3 minutes.
Welcome to this Brighter Life Bit #33. For this lesson, you can listen to the original teaching at the 1:18:00 minute mark of the Class 5 recording. You can download the audio from the ILF website here.
Self-full vs. Selfish – Indrani shares a story that will help you understand the difference.
What can you do to restore yourself?
Do you believe if you go get a massage instead of your partner, that you are being selfish?
Can you really feel “Self-Full” if you ask for what you want, or need?
Get up off of your chair or couch, and start marching in place. It sounds silly, but give yourself a few minutes of exercise and clear your head.
Have a conversation with your best friend or partner, and ask them to give you permission to do something for yourself and not have to feel guilty, or selfish.
Take action, and begin to THRIVE, not survive.
Share your experience with us. What did you add to your calendar? Share your comments below this post.
In Part I of this blog series, I left off with how Indrani Goradia, and the work of Brené Brown changed my life and launched me into the world as an activist. Who knew I could be an activist? Did I really know what it meant to be an “activist.” So first, let’s define the word, “activist.”
An activist is a person who campaigns for some kind of social change. When you participate in a march protesting the closing of a neighborhood library, you’re an activist. Someone who’s actively involved in a protest or a political or social cause can be called an activist.
I don’t know about you, but this is a strong word for me that holds a lot of power and responsibility in the world. I was scared and felt vulnerable to even admit that this word was calling me. Who am I to be an activist? What can Ioffer the world that can help hundreds, thousands, or even millions of women around the globe. Or, who am I, to help just ONE woman? Well, here are the answers to my questions…. I am worthy, I am loved, and I matter.
Do something for me right now. It’s a very quick exercise. Say out loud, “I am worthy, I am loved, and I matter.”
What feeling, or feelings came up for you when you said those words? I can share with you that I was barely able to get those words out of my mouth, and I definitely felt uncomfortable, and incapable of loving myself. I asked myself, “Where in the hell did this come from?” I love people, I love to serve, I love to take care of others, so why didn’t I give a damn about myself?
This is where Indrani Goradia entered my life in September of 2013. I was at Andrea J. Lee’s, Wealthy Thought Leader Conference in Baltimore, MD ….. and Indrani appeared on the big screen with a personal video message for all of us who were seeking to help end gender based violence. Now, due to my training and experience as a police officer, it was difficult to get me physically or emotionally excited about things. I was good at keeping my feelings hidden, and I certainly didn’t cry unless I absolutely had to. But when I saw Indrani’s face, heard the passion in her voice, and listened to the “call to action,” my heart started to beat rapidly …. I had that fluttering feeling in my chest, and my hands started to sweat. I tried to hold back the tears welling up in my eyes, but they began to stream down my cheeks. It was then I knew Indrani’s Light Foundation was in my future … I just didn’t know when, or how.
Fast forwarding to 2014, I decided to listen to my inner warrior and become involved with ILF. I signed up and participated in the Live-A-Brighter-Life teleconference class that spring. I was so impacted by the curriculum that I was the first person to sign up for the 2014 Train-the-Trainer Course in Austin, TX. I became a certified ILF Trainer, and started teaching the workshops to my own community in Portland, OR.
In the Live-A-Brighter-Life curriculum, Indrani includes the work of Dr. Brené Brown. This is where everything shifted for me around my guilt, humiliation, and embarrassment with being a rape survivor, a victim of discrimination, and my bankruptcy. THERE it was all along! “SHAME.” I realized before I could be an activist to end violence against women in the world, I had to practice the four elements of shame resilience that Indrani teaches in her Live-A-Brighter-Life workshop. Brené Brown tells us we need to:
Recognize our shame and understand its triggers
Practice critical awareness
Reach out and connect with people, and own your story
And speak about your shame, while asking people what you need from them
Are you asking yourself how YOU can start practicing these things, and begin the journey of healing? Well maybe the “Readers Digest” version of my life story can help you put a plan together and start your work as an activist for women.
Part 3 of this guest blog series is on its way. Meanwhile, I’d love to hear from you and the feelings that came up for you while you were reading this blog. There is no shame or judgment here. You can begin your journey of healing right now.
Welcome to Episode #21 of the Live a Brighter Life Podcast!
In this episode of the Live a Brighter Life Podcast, Indrani is featured as the 2015 Keynote speaker for Population Services International’s “Make It Stop” Campaign in Trinidad. She was accompanied by Actress/Singer, Mandy Moore, as they promoted a groundbreaking campaign to stop violence against women.
In this podcast, Indrani speaks about:
How we can morph our stories into something that will move the world to a better place.
The POWER of one.
How Indrani did not realize she had been abused as a child until she had her own child.
Violence against women is a pandemic, and does NOT discriminate.
Happy New Year Everyone! 2016 is upon us, and it’s time to move forward with new ideas, new resolutions, and hope of a great year. But don’t forget to reflect on the best of 2015, and how you will use the lessons of 2015 to manifest a year of unimaginable dreams!
Indrani has a special New Year’s video message for you. It’s only a couple of minutes long, so take a look, and know that Indrani’s Light Foundation is ramping up the fight to END domestic violence in 2016!
Here is Indrani’s “Day 13” personal “call to action” video message to you, as we continue to support the UN Women’s “Orange the World” campaign to end violence against women and girls.
Indrani doesn’t know how to scale a rock wall, but she could learn! Her “call to action” today is to learn how to end violence. We can learn to scale this huge obstacle…. take a look!
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Let’s END violence against women and girls together!
“ORANGE THE WORLD”
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