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Who is your Sherpa?

A Nepalese porter walks with his load from Everest base camp in NepalDo you know what a Sherpa is?

They are the BRAVE people who carry all the equipment in a dangerous climb.

The adventure seekers carry themselves and their longing to summit.

The Sherpas carry everything else.

In the climb of your life, your own personal summit, who do you trust with your dream and the equipment you need.

What do you have to do to identify the right Sherpas for your climb?

First… You MUST identify your own summit.

You cannot gather the Sherpas and have them pick your summit.

Then, after you identify the summit and ask your Sherpas to support you, YOU TAKE their advice!

You will have chosen professionals and they will have your best interest at heart.

You will have many meetings of minds and hearts and souls and spirits to come up with the right combination of necessary items.

Then, the real work begins.

NO ONE can make your climb for you.

NO ONE can take the falls for you.

NO ONE can help you recover from the inevitable pitfalls along the way.

Only YOU will know when you need to rest, or ramp up, to eat or sleep.

If you allow yourself to be pushed beyond your own limits only you will suffer. The Sherpas may be able to offer some advice about recovery but can really only offer company as you recover.

So, as you begin to identify your own personal summit, and select your Sherpas, remember to love and respect the journey on which you are about to embark.

Carefully select who you want to invest your resources in efforts that are personally fulfilling and spiritually uplifting.

Love and light,

Indrani

Who pushes your buttons?

 

push-to-add-drama via viraluploadWe all have people like this in our lives. They just seem to get under our skin. They know just what to say and when to say it and before you know it you are upset, crying or yelling and it feels like they have won….again.

This used to happen to me all the time. It used to feel like I walked into the trap and stayed in the trap even as I saw they were springing it on me….again!

The one BIG mistake that I used to make was this… I used to think that the people who did this to me cared about me.

When I began to realize that these people only liked to hear themselves talk, it was easier for me to untangle myself from their traps. I began to really listen to their words, the ACTUAL words, and I began to ASK them what they meant?

For instance…
When a family member says, “Well that’s just how you are.”
I now say, “What exactly do you mean?”
I noticed that the speaker would do a double take and would begin to trip over their words.
They began to say things like, “Oh, nothing really.” Or “Well I was just making a joke.”
Then I could say, “What was the joke?” Or “Was the joke at MY expense?”

I chose to react in this way until I felt that I broke the other person of their behaviors with me.
I chose to uninstall the buttons that used to be pushed all the time.
I must tell you, it takes time and patience but it was well worth my time an attention.

It was worth the time investment because it showed that I respected myself and that I expected others to respect me as well.

Just to reiterate my strategy:
I. I would ask for clarity.
2. I would ask for further clarity.
3. I would then pin point the “dig” and ask for even more clarity.

Please note that I was NOT concerned on who would like me, or who would judge me. I only focused on standing up for myself.
Love and light,
Indrani (Reminding you to stand up for yourself in the face of verbal bullies.)