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Brighter Life Bit #4: Going to the Movies

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If there is one tool you take away from the first Live a Brighter Life class, this is the one to keep close at hand, and use as often as needed. Indrani calls it Going to the Movies:

  1. Choose a person in your life you have not been able to stand up to.
  2. Imagine this person crossing one or more of your personal boundaries.
  3. Do nothing but observe yourself in this situation. Watch as if you are at the movies, watching someone who looks like you and acts like you.
  4. Notice what this character is doing while the boundary is being broken. How are they standing or sitting? What are they doing with their hands, eyes, mouth?
  5. Now notice what the character is thinking and feeling. What thoughts are running through their head? What emotions are they feeling?

Now grab a piece of paper, a word document, or your journal and answer these questions:

  • What are the personal boundaries being crossed?
  • How are you reacting to these boundaries being crossed?
  • What are you communicating non-verbally and verbally? What are you holding inside?
  • You are the director and script writer of your life: after watching your “film”, what new role would you like to play?

Share your answers to these questions in the comments section below and we can work together to find your new role in the next movie

Brighter Life Bit #2: What is your definition of a personal boundary?

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Indrani has an incredible definition for personal boundaries:

“Guidelines, rules, or limits created by a person for herself that are reasonable, safe, and permissible ways for other people to treat her, as well as how she will respond when someone steps outside those limits

Using this new definition of a personal boundary write out some of the physical, mental, and spiritual boundaries that you have created (and are enforcing) in your life.

Now, write out some physical, mental, and spiritual boundaries that you have NOT created in your life that may be causing problems for you and your relationships.

We would love it if you shared your responses below so we can all learn from each other’s responses.

LABL 001: Setting Boundaries – Define Your Personal Space

Welcome to Episode #1 of the Live A Brighter Life Podcast!

In this episode of the Live A Brighter Life Podcast Indrani and Andrea discuss boundaries. Specifically you will:

  • Be able to define “personal boundaries”
  • Know the types of personal boundaries
  • Understand the importance and purpose of personal boundaries
  • Be able to identify healthy and unhealthy boundaries
  • Be aware of when boundaries are crossed

Resources

Better Boundaries: Owning and Treasuring your Life by Jan Black and Greg Emms

Podcast Recording