I always wanted a cape…

superhero via momfilter.com

No, I never wanted a cape of wool, cashmere, or mink. I want a cape that shimmers in the face of wrong doing. I want a cape that shines in the instance of injustice. I want cape colored bright in a dark world of harm. I want a super hero’s cape! Instead? I got a… [Continue Reading]

When I say NO… Do you hear MAYBE?

Saying NO via beliefnet.com

A case study in Nonviolent communication. I just got a call from a charity for Breast Cancer Research asking for a little something for underprivileged women. This is how it began: Me …Hello Them…Is the lady of the house there? Me…Who’s calling? Note that I did not say… Oh yes, I am the lady of… [Continue Reading]

Daring to question the regular-ness of life…

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When time is non linear…it is super sweet. I just spent 8 days with 25 strangers. After 8 days a normal person would not expect to know more than a few of these people and, not very well. I have known people for far longer than 8 days and still feel like I do not know… [Continue Reading]

No laughing matter

Woman-Laughing2 http://womenofwisdom.com/tag/women-of-wisdom/

If you have never been to a 12 step meeting (as I am certainly new to it all), the last thing you would expect is laughing.  To the unknowing you would expect tears, sobbing, dismay, anger, sadness, frustration or anguish.  The last thing you would think to expect is laughing.  You would think that addiction, codependency,… [Continue Reading]

Shame thy name is FEAR and PAIN

I Thought It Was Just Me

I have had the great fortune of being immersed in the teachings of Dr. Brene Brown (see her on TED.com here) The work that we are doing is focused on shame and guilt. Dr. Brown’s work on SHAME can be found in her book I Thought It Was Just Me. I recommend it, HIGHLY. Until… [Continue Reading]

Vulnerability is not a bottomless pit…

Calm by atomicjeep, on flickr

Rather it is a very shallow pool of very cold water…. Means you are in discomfort for only a short while. If you stay with the feeling of being vulnerable long enough, your body temp begins to warm up your surroundings.  Pretty  soon you are back to your normal level of courage BUT you have… [Continue Reading]