What happens to ME when I get sick from doing too much for YOU?
What happens to YOU when I can no longer hold you in my heart with love and respect because I am tired of your pain?
What happens to MY PAIN when I cannot find a way to see through your pain and into your soul?
What happens to all of us when we begin to shut down our hearts and rely on formulaic “fixes”?
These are very important questions if you are in the healing worlds of:
You must have a place to go that is safe…a place where you will NOT be judged for being tired of caring or care taking.
A place where it’s okay to say “I am tired, I am sick AND tired.”
You are human. Humans get tired.
Fatigue does not last forever. When you are fatigued you need rest. You need physical rest, mental rest and emotional rest.
Allowing yourself to rest will give you a chance to be clear. Clarity is one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself.
Here are a few things that may help on a weekly or monthly basis:
A massage- There are many massage schools that charge very little so their students can practice.
A support group- find one where members have issues in common with yours. You will see that you are not alone. If you have an addiction, then try a 12 step group.
Read this blog by Kay Walten to see how much healing she is receiving from the 12 step group she stumbled into.
A yoga or meditation class- Many studios offer scholarship money for needy students. Ask and you probably will receive.
Plan a Gratitude party for your friends- Tell them who is coming and ask them to write an anonymous note to each person and focus on that person’s greatness. Ask each person to bring a small dish to share. Do not overindulge in alcohol, it dulls the senses.
Beware of compassion fatigue. It makes the sanest among us crazy…and when the brain is crazy you are not your best self.
I hope the title of this post made you slightly curious.
It was quite difficult to name this, as I KNEW what I wanted to say but I was not sure how to title it so that it made sense.
Was I frustrated in the “not knowing” of what the title would be?
No, I was actually amused that I could have such a deep “KNOWING” of what something is, yet not be able to name it.
This sitting with “not knowing” is the very essence of yoga for your soul and spirit. It requires no physical movement, although doing physical asana (poses) will help to soften the experience and sweeten the “not knowing”.
The willingness to stay with a confused mind and not label the fog in any way, but to KNOW that this fog will burn away IF you don’t try to push it away, is very comforting.
A few things you can say to yourself would be:
This too shall pass.
I have been here before and I survived.
This place is familiar and it does not have to be scary.
I find myself in “not knowing” again, an old familiar place.
Hello old friend called “foggy mind”. What sweetness do you hold today?
I have been reading The Book of Secrets by Deepak Chopra and I think that this book will help you to sit in “not knowing”.
I could write lots more here, in an attempt to make you more comfortable with not knowing, but in the end it will only be MY experience of it. I invite you to have your own experience.
People generally “do” yoga. They go to classes, take their place on their mats, and do the poses…they are dealing with the body. Which is one limb of yoga. It may be easy to do a back bend, balance in a tree pose or strike a warrior pose.
Being yoga is harder. It takes a strong and willing spirit to be patient, compassionate & understanding to yourself & others. It does not require a mat, or being at a class at a specific time.
It requires an open heart, a quiet mind and awareness.
There…is the work.
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