- Your boss
- The people sitting next to you
- The check out person at the store
The list can go on and on….
With all of phone calls, texts, emails and face-to-face conversations that go on during the course of a day we could be listening to 10’s and for some 100’s of people a day.
Let’s imagine a conversation with our best friend.
ME: Hi! How ya doing? How’s your day?
FRIEND: Well, today I am tired and I just don’t have any energy.
ME: Oh really? I am sorry to hear that. Why?
FRIEND: Yes. I am really dragging, I am a little down.
ME: Oh, are you getting enough sleep? Eating well? Are you sick?
FRIEND: No, I did not get enough sleep. I’m not sick. Maybe I am not eating enough veggies and I’m eating too much junk food, maybe that is it….
ME: What can I do to help? Why don’t you turn the phone off and take a nap. Your work/laundry/cleaning/ will still be there when you wake up. But you’ll feel better. Oh, I know, finish up what you have to get done and call it a day. Take a bath and just start fresh tomorrow.
Does this conversation sound familiar?
Notice that nowhere in the list of people we listen to everyday, who we talk with, do we take the time to have a quiet conversation with ourselves. Let’s take that same conversation and switch roles of our best friend with ourselves, our bodies.
ME: Hi how ya doing? How’s your day?
MYSELF: Well, today I am tired and I just don’t have any energy.
ME: Oh really why? Come on shake it off, it’s a work day you know…
MYSELF: I am really dragging, I am a little down.
ME: Oh you had four, almost five hours sleep. It’s almost the weekend, toughen up. Maybe a Starbucks or a Coke will pick you up…the day will be over soon.
MYSELF: No, I did not get enough sleep. I’m not sick. Maybe I am not eating enough veggies and I’m eating too much junk food, maybe that is it….
ME: Listen, just push through the day, let’s get our work/laundry/cleaning done and cross it off the list. We’ll try to go to bed early. Hey the weekend is coming and maybe we can take a nap then. Snap to it!
The first conversation with our friends is a kind, warm and compassionate conversation. The second is cold, uncaring and demanding.
Why is it that we are the hardest on ourselves?
Take some time to listen to your heart, mind and body. Show it the same warmth, caring and compassion as you would your best friend or even your child.
We should always take time to have a conversation with ourselves and listen closely to what we need.