If you find yourself stuck in a destructive thought pattern and are beating yourself up, you may be picking your own brain looking for evidence about what a screw up you are.
You may even be at the receiving end of someone telling you how screwed up you are and listing the evidence to support the “you are screwed up” theory.
Try to remove yourself from these people or this situation IMMEDIATELY!
Even if you can only get away by going to the toilet, go to the toilet.
Sit in there for as long as you need to break the onslaught of negativity.
If people begin to yell at you to come out, lie and say you have stomach problems and stay longer. The longer you stay in the toilet, the easier it is for them to lose their wrath and maybe calm down a bit.
Always remove yourself from the negative barrage of others.
People who are busy screaming and yelling at you about how bad you are do not have time to look at their own bad behaviors. They are turning their discomfort into anger directed at you so they don’t have to feel their own emotions.
The time to engage with people raging at you is NOT when they are raging.
The ONLY thing to do with a RAGER is to disengage.
So the next time you are being told how bad or stupid you are….disengage as soon as you can and refuse to be defined by others.
If you have made a mistake, forgive yourself and do not be defined by that mistake. Know too, that you are fully human and that you will make many more mistakes in the future. It is with our mistakes that we learn our greatest lessons.
Go forth and make mistakes, learn from them and refuse to be defined by them.
Love and light,