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WARNING!!! SIDE EFFECTS OF JOY.

Check with your life coach if any of these most COMMON side effects persist or become bothersome to others when experiencing JOY:

Dizziness from being giddy; dry mouth from too much whistling or singing.

Other side effects include: excitement, exuberance, rejoicing, glee, elation, ecstasy, bliss, exhilaration, rapture, jubilation or felicity, loss of appetite, nausea, nervousness, restlessness, stomach pain from too much laughing (which could lead to loss of bladder control), and restful nights of sleep.

Seek medical attention right away if any of these SEVERE side effects occur from JOY:

Severe reactions include: bursting into song, jumping, dancing, skipping, hugging others, change in sexual ability or desire, irregular heartbeat, sore throat from laughing or singing, new or improving mental or mood problems (eg, relaxation, agitation, lack of delusions, happiness, being in the moment, calmness, friendliness).

This is not a complete list of all side effects that may occur. If you have questions about side effects, contact your inner health care provider. Call your life coach for advice about side effects.  Or register here.

“Joy is not in things; it is in us” – Robert Wagner

As a kid growing up, I remember us having a boat, an airplane (I thought all kids flew somewhere for pancakes on Sunday), a couple cars, a nice house…. and yet I never saw joy in my father’s face.   As an adult I vowed to myself I would not make those same mistakes in acquiring material goods knowing they would not make me happy.  But lo and behold as I stand here today, I see that I did not escape the trap.

And what a trap it is.   The stuff we buy to try to fulfill a void, fulfill the ego, to fulfill what society tells us we should do/be/have.   When in actuality what we are seeking does not require financing, an American Express, or a drive to the mall.  It may take time to find joy which is in all of us, but it is free.

It is the joy within us that can fill us until we are overflowing.   Instead of being weighed down by possessions, with joy we are as light as a feather dancing on the breeze.

What’s RAGE got to do with it?

You would have to be living under a very big rock if you did not know that Japan had a very big tsunami that destroyed at least 4 nuclear reactors and that the spent energy rods that are supposed to always be kept under water and cooled are exposed and heating up. While these rods are no longer useful in terms of creating energy, they are still very much alive and can wreck havoc on the atmosphere by giving up the radiation that they inherently contain.

A very simplistic explanation is this, if you burn coal and the embers are left burning, the embers can start a fire if it came into contact with something flammable. YES I know how simplistic this is, please bear with me.

The potential for damage by the exposed rods is HUGE. I do not think that we can even come close to wrapping our brain around how devastating this can be for all forms of life. Think 3 headed snakes and 2 headed cows if you must, but know that those examples are pale in comparison by what can truly happen. Genetic mutation of apocalyptical proportions.

What does this have to do with Life Coaching?

Glad you asked… Think RAGE!

RAGE is dangerous! RAGE creates havoc and RAGE changes families in ways that people cannot fathom. The effects of RAGE may not be at the genetic mutation level, but the toxicities of rage can get into our cells and change us for a very long time.

If you do not know why we act the way we act and do not see that Familial Rage may be the culprit, then we pass on these destructive behaviors to our children and every one says “Oh well, that’s just the way so and so behaves”.

I say… BS!

When you are in the path of RAGE it’s all you can do to keep your sanity. You have to strive to not get swept up and into the path of the destruction.

You have to find ways to COOL down the person who is raging. Family members begin to tip toe around the raging bull and everyone begins to change their actions so as not to set of so and so.

We feel a need to cool them down as surely as we know we need to keep those spent fuel rods cooled. We KNOW that something horrible will be unleashed into our atmosphere if the heat continues to rise.

I have a solution for RAGE.

It is not an easy solution.

When you are in the presence of RAGE… L E A V E… Get up and be very deliberate in your leaving.

Do not say a single word!

Allow your actions to speak for themselves.

If you can be consistent with this for a few times you might make the raging bull-headed person stop and think… And if their rage continues then you have to decide if it’s worth being around that person.

The rageful person leaks toxicity not only into their own system but also into the energy fields of those around them.

People who witness the raging events, shake their heads in disbelief as the family members shrink down (hang their heads) in shame and pretend that it’s the first time this has happened.

If the whole family would get up and leave the RAGER to rage at themselves then maybe something can change.

RAGE ONLY works if there is someone to rage at, so if people would get some guts and leave, then maybe a change can occur.

I tell you what, trying to keep the rager COOLED and unheated is an exhausting and thankless job and no one should have to do it.

Life is short, why must we waste another minute of it in the face of anyone’s rage and toxic anger?

What do you think?

A lesson in Truth vs Honesty

Have you seen the recent television ad with Abe Lincoln and his wife? She asks him if the dress she is wearing makes her look fat. Honest Abe timidly with his hands indicates “a little”, and she storms off.

Is honest Abe really being honest or is he being truthful?

Truth is, as true or actual state of a matter.
Honesty is being honourable in principles, intentions and actions. One can be truthful in what they say, but not honest in their intent.

For example:
“Do these jeans make me look fat?”
“No, the jeans don’t make you look fat!”

(The responder is telling the truth, it’s not the jeans that make the wearer look fat. But if they were being honest they would have replied, “No, the jeans don’t make you look fat – it’s just you that’s fat!”)

So good ole Honest Abe, was not being so honest, he was being truthful.

Life is a banquet and most poor suckers…

are starving to death… Mame from Auntie Mame

Here is my take on this famous quote~

Life is full of JOYFUL moments and most people are too worried about what people will say or think to take the risk to grab the JOY.

View the video below…

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This shows a flash mob that I was brave enough to organize. My dear friends Patty and Bindya jumped on the band wagon and we were all willing to look foolish while creating JOY for our community.

Who will you depend on to take a risk with you so that you can grab some joy?

Who can you depend on to NOT dismiss your dream for JOY?

These are worthwhile questions to think about…

Take a moment to think about your JOY TEAM.  Check out our next iamjoy event

Love and Light.

Elvis Presley once said…

“Truth is like the sun. You can shut it out for a time, but it ain’t goin’ away.” -Elvis Presley

How true is that? We know the truth, and yet we try cover it up with the curtains material goods, cloud the truth with addictive behaviors. A rain of tears cannot stop the the truth from shining through. We act cold and try to ignore the truth, yet the warmth of it eventually melts our defenses. Once we accept the truth, like the sun, we radiate, bask and shine! So we need to ask ourselves, do we prefer to be in the dreary weather, slumped shouldered and heavy with ignoring our truth, or stand expansive and light in the sunshine of our being?

iamjoy Oh Joy I Am!

Oh the Places You'll Go.

Kay Walten is a dear friend and a contributor to this site. Kay has authored this inspiring blog and we hope you enjoy it as much as we do!  Love & Light, Indrani.

This past week we have been talking about the upcoming Virtual JOY Event: INHALE LIFE, EXHALE JOY .  It is exciting as we get the bios of all the people who will be sharing their joy at the event.  In one of the emails going back and forth as we brain stormed, some one put in the subject line:  iamjoy OH JOY I AM!  and she laughed maybe she could write a Dr. Seuss book.

I started to look… about if I could,  about if I should, do it this week, write in a way that Dr. Seuss would speak! Then I read some things great and small, and found something he wrote that applies to us all.

 

You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself
any direction you choose.
You’re on your own.
And you know what you know.
And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go.

You won’t lag behind, because you’ll have the speed.
You’ll pass the whole gang and you’ll soon take the lead.
Wherever you fly, you’ll be the best of the best.
Wherever you go, you will top all the rest.

I’m sorry to say so
But, sadly it’s true
That bang-ups and hang-ups
Can happen to you.

On and on you will hike, And I know you’ll hike far
and face up to your problems whatever they are.
You’ll get mixed up of course, as you already know.
You’ll get mixed up with many strange birds as you go.

So be sure when you step.
Step with care and great tact
And remember that Life’s a great balancing act.

Just never forget to be dexterous and deft.
And never mix up your right foot with your left.

Will you succeed?
Yes you will indeed!
(98 and 3/4 percent guaranteed.)

I read these lines with a smile on my face, & thought of how joy can bring us to the same place.  I invite you to be there, where ever you are, it makes no difference how close or how far.  So if we INHALE LIFE we are sure to see, we will EXHALE JOY its got to be!

If you want to be there and there without fail, you can sign up right here and you’ll get an email.

And lastly I invite you, go take a look, click right here we’re on facebook.

 

You can’t handle the truth…

Spoken by Colonel Jessop in A Few Good Men

Can YOU handle the TRUTH?

Want to know the truth about your very special gifts?
Head on over to www.indranislight.org and sign up for Chat n Chai and you will get a great coaching tool called 5 minutes to happiness and you will uncover all those character traits you have been hiding under a rock.

This rock is called You Are Not Good Enough!

Can you handle the truth of how very special and wonderful you are?

I believe you can

So click

www.indranislight.org and go chat and chai to get your special coaching tool.

Love & Light