1. You want to emerge
2. Non judgment of self for wanting a different life
3. Accept the yearning as a soul whisper
4. See your challenges as messages that got you to this place
5. Learn to say a soft NO without anger to people who try to block your exit from the shadows
You have a long list of SHOULDS
You cannot substitute choose for SHOULD
You long for some peace from the SHOULDS
You know what everyone expects of you
Your “EVERYBODY expects me to”…. Voice is very loud
You have forgotten what you used to dream about
You days are filled with everyone else’s priorities
You cry in secret and smile in public…If people knew what you were thinking they would be shocked
You wonder ” if this is all there is”
You are scared that your daughter will have this kind of life
You fear that your son will grow up to disrespect women
The Should feelings keep you from…
– Being present in the now
– Being choosy about what you want for your life
– Being selfish about self care… Everyone else comes first
Isn’t it time to?
– Allow others to step up and grow up
– Allow others their own life lessons
– Allow others to shine
Saying I WANT…. instead of seeking to do what you think others want you to do.
Are you constantly sad? Have no one to confide in? No one will listen to you? Do you cry silently when you think no one can hear you?
Are you staying in your present situation because you feel completely powerless?
Are you staying FOR the KIDS?
Here are some simple steps to help you cope:
1. When you feel overwhelmed, excuse yourself even if just to the bathroom and take some deep belly breaths. Stay there for about 5 minutes, keep breathing and allowing yourself this space.
2. Keep your feet firmly planted in the earth and stay grounded. Know that you are being supported by the earth even if you feel you are falling over a cliff… You are not really falling. Be steady.
3. Repeat some positive affirmations to yourself, such as I AM a good person. I AM a child of god. Life is teaching me exactly what I need to learn for ME to move into MY right life.
A… Accept your innate goodness.
B… Be creative in your daily life, let go of routine actions.
C…Create space in your day for dreaming.
L – Let go of what others expect of you. Make your own rules. Take your power without permission.
E – Engage with the messages from your body… Easy as 123.
1- accept that your body has wisdom.
2- allow your behaviors to first do no harm to your own self.
3- believe that joy and happiness are your birth rights.
A – Allow yourself to feel the discomfort of Fear Regret Hurt Guilt. Feel these and other emotions deeply and freely without judging yourself. New life comes from birthing pain… Allow the pain so your new life can be birthed. What new thing will be birthed in you today.
D – Decide to chart your own course. Find and follow your purpose. We all have a divine purpose and you KNOW what it is. Sit in silence each day for about 10 minutes and allow the whisperings of your purpose to surface. It wants to, but the noise of your everyday life keeps it silent.
Dear (insert your name)
I am every one of your Dreams. I want to tell you about my Bill of Rights, you see, you may have forgotten that I have a Bill of Rights!
I do not mean to offend you BUT I want you to know that
I know that there are more years than you care to remember when you were too tired to invest thought and energy into making me real. I want to tell you that 2011 is the year of my coming OUT.
I have tried to get your attention by displaying odd behaviors such as
over eating,
chronic fatigue
depression
anxiety
you get the idea.
I really thought that if you felt uncomfortable you would figure it out and take some real action. BUT you think that another diet,more material stuff,affairs, and a better body can fix the sadness. You have learned that this only makes it worse.
PLEASE, please take some time to sit in meditation and listen to me! Please, if you listen to what I have to say I can really help you out of the pickle you are in.
If you choose to NOT listen, I will take more drastic action until I get your attention.
Sincerely
Your Dreams!
Find every day peace and calm.
Create a solid foundation for Abundance.
See the golden nuggets in very challenge.
Make sustainable changes.
Extract the best from everyone especially your self.
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A friend sent this to me and I thought that it is worth sharing 🙂
An elderly Indian woman had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole which she carried across her neck. One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water. At the end of the long walks from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.
For a full two years this went on daily, with the woman bringing home only one and a half pots of water. Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it could only do ha lf of what it had been made to do.
After two years of what it perceived to be bitter failure, it spoke to the woman one day by the stream. “I am ashamed of myself, because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house.” The old woman smiled, “Did you notice that there are flowers on your side of the path, but not on the other pot’s side? That’s because I have always known about your flaw, so I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back, you water them.For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table. Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house.”
Each of us has our own unique flaws. But it’s the cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives together so very interesting and rewarding. We’ve just got to take each person for what they are and look for the good in them. SO, to all of you,my cracked pot friends, have a great day, a wonderful year ahead, and remember to smell the flowers on your side of the path! 🙂
Happy 2011 to you and yours! I respect and love you the way you are and for all the caring things that you do each day in your life for your community and all your loved ones. Thank you for being a part of my life and having impacted me in a unique and wonderful way that you may not even be aware of!
Thank you to Sheela for this story. I could not have found a better message.
love and light
Indrani