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Caring for the Caregivers: Dealing With a Lack of Appreciation and Gratitude Part One – Episode #5

August 15, 2017Caring for the Caregivers PodcastAccomplishment, Amy Jaffe, appreciation, caregiver, compassion fatigue, domestic violence, domestic violence survivor, Engagement, Gratitude, Indrani Goradia, indranis light foundation, Jeremie Miller, Martin Seligman, meaning, PERMA, Positive Emotions, relationships, womens shelterJeremie Miller

You put a lot of passion, love, and effort into supporting your clients at work, and your family at home. It can be challenging (and very emotional) when the people you are helping don’t say “thank you” or show any gratitude for the support and energy you give them. In this episode learn three tools you can use to change your perspective when someone doesn’t show you appreciation.

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Episode Time Codes

00:58 Introduction
02:42 Scenario
03:32 Indrani – Use the “Going to the Movies Tool” to reflect on your actions and reactions when someone shows no gratitude.
08:08 Discussion of the “Going to the Movies Tool”
12:00 Amy – Use the “How do you want to be perceived” exercise to identify your triggers in this situation.
16:46 Discussion of the “How do you want to be perceived” exercise.
21:54 Jeremie – Use PERMA to focus on your side of the relationship and don’t depend on the other person showing gratitude.
27:30 Discussion of the PERMA tool
31:00 Conclusion and summary of the three tools

Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

LINK: Find your strengths using the VIA Strengths Survey
BOOK: Flourish by Martin Seligman

Brighter Life Bit #30: How can you use P.E.R.M.A. to manage Self-Care?

December 22, 2015Podcastgender based violence, indranis light foundation, PERMA, self careAmy Jaffe

Welcome to this Brighter Life Bit #30. For this lesson, you can listen to the original teaching at the 31:30 minute mark of the Class 5 recording. You can download the audio from the ILF website here.

What does P.E.R.M.A. stand for? How can it impact your well-being and give you a restorative practice?

Exercise:Take out your journal. Please write down what you are doing right now. How does this activity connect to one (or more than one) of the five buckets of P.E.R.M.A?

Examples:

Volunteering – Meaining and Purpose
Reading a book – Positive Emotions
Working on a special project – Engagement
Cooking dinner for friends – Relationship to Others
Doing art – Achievement

Now think of a place in your life where you can introduce P.E.R.M.A.

Share your experience with us. What did you choose to do to practice self-care? Share your comments below this post.

When the going got tough… I had to find a way to keep going

August 9, 2014featured, homepagebe present, best, choices, gender based violence, gender violence, Gratitude, gratitude practice, happiness, happy, PERMA, positive emotion, positive psychology, right you, self love, shine brightly, youIndrani Goradia

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I have been having some significant issues the past few weeks.

Most of the time I am able to stay in the moment and to stay out of negative thinking and self judgment. However, a few days ago, all my resolve fell apart and I had nothing left.

I could not crawl into a hole and hide. I could not run away from home. I could not stop caring for the people around me.

I had to find a way through a difficult 24-72 hour period.

So I chose to live by the positive psychology of PERMA.

P is for Positive Emotion
E is for Engagement
R is for Relationship
M is for Meaning and Purpose
A is for Achievement

These five elements are what make life sweet.

If the details of each day put a little deposit into each of the buckets and you can look at the day and feel good and positive about what you accomplished then you are living with PERMA.

Here is an example:

Let’s say you are facing some significant personal issues and you have no energy to do anything for anyone but you want to do a little something for a few key people and you want to feel great about what you do.

Pick a person who needs a little help and do just a small thing, like maybe giving them some tea or a meal or just a call on the tele.

When you do this small thing you will get Positive Emotion from the deed.

You will be Engaged with the person you love.

You will be building the Relationship with that person.

You will have done something that gives Meaning and Purpose to your life.

You will have Achieved something with and for them.

Stacking up these bits of PERMA during a tough day will make you feel a lot better AND will flood your brain with Positive emotion.

It’s not always easy to find something that fills all the buckets, so just being able to fill 3 or 4 is a great start.

Love and light,

Indrani

Indrani’s Light Foundation

Supporting Advocates to Support Others